Dear Parents and Friends,
This Term we have taken Courage as the value we are working towards. There are many times in life when we all need to be able to show courage – when we are met with what seems impossible obstacles – when we are faced with situations that are tragic – when we see things differently to others and know we should speak out – when it seems that others reject or abuse us in some form. All these situations require courage and a dose of positivity. To grow into a person who can face adversity with courage and hope, requires practice. For our children to develop these emotional skills, we as their educators, (both parents and teachers), need to continually nurture and model these skills. Research tells us that for children to grow in emotional intelligence, they need to be supported through difficult experiences, but at the same time, they must be allowed to experience these situations.
One of the keys to functioning socially and emotionally is the ability to deal with disappointment and rejection.
Michael Grose, Author and founder of Parentingideas says:
“Most children experience some type of rejection from their peers throughout childhood. One study found that even popular children were rejected about one quarter of the time when they approached children in school.
Paradoxically, children’s experience of rejection and disappointment at school is good for them, as long as it’s balanced with successful experiences too. They learn that they can cope and solve problems in their own way and that bad experiences don’t last forever.
And they learn that sadness and disappointment can be managed too, which is an important lesson to learn to take into adolescence and beyond, when life is full of ups and downs.
Helping them move on
Most children recover from such rejection. They move on and form constructive, worthwhile relationships but some children need help. They often take rejection personally, blaming themselves. As a parent it is useful to challenge children’s unhelpful thinking and encourage them to look for new friendship opportunities. Parents can help children understand that rejection may happen for any number of reasons that are unrelated to them.
In the course of a school day children will meet with a number of challenges and even setbacks. They may struggle with some schoolwork. They may not do well in a test and they may not be picked for a game that they wanted to play. Children grow stronger when they overcome their difficulties. The challenge for parents is to build and maintain children’s confidence levels to help them get through the rough times.
One way to help children deal with rejection and disappointment is to talk through problems or difficulties, recognising and accepting their feelings. Talk about various scenarios, discussing possible outcomes. The age of your child will determine the amount of detail. Keep things simple and avoid burdening a younger child with concepts he or she doesn’t understand.
Your attitude as a parent can make a huge difference to how a child reacts. If you see rejection or disappointments as problems then your child will be hamstrung by this view. See them as challenges then your child, in all likelihood, will pick up your upbeat view and deal with disappointments easily. After all, confidence is catching!
To help children handle rejection and disappointment try the following four strategies:
1. Model optimism. Watch how you present the world to children, as they will pick up your view.
2. Tell children how you handle disappointment and rejection. Not only is it reassuring for children to know that their parents understand how they feel but they can learn a great deal by how their parents handle situations.
3. Help children recognise times in the past when they bounced back from disappointment. Help them recognise those same strategies can be used again.
4. Laugh together. Humour is a great coping mechanism. It helps put disappointment in perspective. It helps them understand that things will get better. They always do.
The stronger the wind the stronger the trees is the notion here. Supporting kids to handle life’s hurdles helps them to develop a lasting sense of resilience, which is essential for good mental and emotional health.”
ACARA and VRQA
Last week we received a visit from both the Australian Curriculum and Reporting Authority and the Victorian Registration and Qualifications Authority. ACARA representatives were here to interview and film how we personalize the Australian Curriculum to meet the learning needs of all students. This visit was as a response to us being recognized as a school leading the way in how to work with the Australian Curriculum. An external reviewer, on behalf of VRQA, was here to view our facilities, practices, curriculum and to inspect all relevant documents as a part of our four year cyclical Review. This component of the Review is to ensure that as a school, we comply with all Government requirements for registration. Although visiting us for different purposes, it was pleasing to note that all visitors complemented us on our amazing facilities and on the “feel” of the school. It was stated that there was a sense that there was a positive learning environment for our students and that as a community, we should be proud of our school. This again is testament to the dedication and excellent work of staff and the support and commitment by you, our parents.
ENROLMENT 2017 PREPS
If you have a child who is ready to commence school in 2017, please ensure that you have lodged an Enrolment application prior to the closure date of 3 June. We have a strong interest in places for 2017.
Our final Open Day will be held on:
5 May Tours 9.30am and 12.00pm
3 June Applications close